Many cultivate a fantasy that when true love is present, a long-term relationship will magically materialize. Reading tea leaves and pulling petals from flowers– “He loves me, He loves me not”– does not manifest commitment. Keep these five points in mind to avoid the frustration and heartbreak that comes when love lingers but can’t get off the ground.
Many cultivate a fantasy that when true love is present, a long-term relationship will magically materialize. Reading tea leaves and pulling petals from flowers– “He loves me, He loves me not”– does not manifest commitment. Keep these five points in mind to avoid the frustration and heartbreak that comes when love lingers but can’t get off the ground.
Popular culture embraces romantic notions about “falling in love” or love striking when least expected as if it were something outside of human control, as in lightning storms and earthquakes. Give up fantasy in favor of goal-based love, because true romance needs a well-focused agenda. Here is a 5 point agenda for goal-based love.
Whatever those awkward moments are during those first few dates for a new couple—i.e. pregnant pauses over a first meal together, inadvertently cutting off one another while speaking, the forced politeness or the inelegance of planning and executing an outing with a complete stranger, these moments are the seeds that must be sown to learn if a partnership can grow.
Overly fearing rejection can cause a person to act in a manner designed to achieve acceptance at any cost—even if the one she wants acceptance from is thoroughly inadequate. When someone you are interested in is not pursuing you, asking yourself what you are doing wrong is an ineffective strategy. Instead, consider these assessment questions.
Some busy people welcome an opportunity to be alone. For others it is painful. But avoiding it completely is a losing battle—it might be those 10 minutes driving in the car, not being able to fall asleep at night, waiting for someone to show up, wondering if someone will show up—inevitably everyone will find themselves unaccompanied from time to time.
